shadow integration

healing my relationship wounds

Prepared for: Sample Report

Date: December 2025

before we begin:

This report uses tarot as a framework for exploring the unconscious patterns, wounds, and blocks that shape your relationships and choices. The cards don't predict outcomes - instead, they illuminate what you're not seeing about yourself and offer pathways toward integration and healing.

My approach integrates concepts from shadow work and psychology with traditional tarot interpretation. I focus on revealing patterns, not assigning blame - helping you understand the protective behaviors that once served you but may now be holding you back.

What follows is deep, potentially challenging work. Shadow integration isn't always comfortable, but it's where real transformation happens. Take what resonates, sit with what confronts you, and trust yourself to know what you're ready to face.

Insecurity and fear drive avoidance patterns—staying busy, analysis paralysis, one foot always out the door. An invitation to integrate these wounds through radical honesty, clear boundaries, and finally doing the deep work you've been avoiding.

my MAIN WOUND

Page of Pentacles

What wound is currently activated?

As a wound, the Page of Pentacles indicates a deep-seated feeling of not living up to your capabilities. Perhaps there is a dream you have but you’ve avoided taking the first step, and this lives in you as a feeling of something you should have done by now—a persistent sense of missed opportunity.

This card in this position can also indicate you’ve neglected a foundational aspect of your wellbeing. Perhaps you have anxiety surrounding finances or your overall material stability in life. You may feel like you aren’t as far along as you should be. You may feel like you are perpetually unprepared, especially for a relationship. 

7 of Swords

How does this wound affect my relationships?

The 7 of Swords suggests that your wound affects your relationships by trying to outsmart the situation. Instead of addressing your wound head on, you’ve developed a work around. This could involve deception: telling lies to a partner or developing sneaky plans. It can also indicate you are at the point where you believe your own fabrications and distortions of reality to avoid facing uncomfortable truths about yourself.

What these cards mean together…

Together, these cards point toward an individual who is self-sabotaging through distorted thinking and avoiding accountability, likely due to deep underlying insecurity they are not enough. This avoidance has become a defensive mechanism. You’ve fallen into a rut of not showing up 100%, perhaps because you are afraid to try. To you, it has become habit to have one foot out the door than go all in and possibly fail. By regularly avoiding accountability, you ensure the wound of missed growth remains active, as the first step to move away from it is never taken.

my INNER VOICE

2 of Wands reversed

What does my inner self want me to know about this wound?

Receiving this card here asks you to acknowledge that you are avoiding taking action because you are afraid of change.

Your wound of insecurity has created a state of analysis paralysis. You are so afraid of making the wrong choice (or the effort required by the right choice) that you’ve chosen to stay exactly where you are, despite feeling trapped and discontent.

Even though you desire new experiences and for things to be different, you are stuck. Paralyzed. Quite simply, this wound is directly causing opportunities to pass you by. 

going DEEPER…

8 of Swords reversed

What secondary wound affects how I show up in relationships?

As a secondary wound, this card indicates you may be afraid to shed the blindfold and move toward freedom.

When considering the other cards, there seems to be a hesitation here…a reluctance to use your freedom after being constrained for so long. Even though you are no longer in the situation that caused your pain, the emotional scars of your past run deep.

In practice, this likely further ingrains your analysis paralysis and inability to make clean decisions because you are afraid of making mistakes.

2 of Pentacles reversed

What protective pattern emerged from these wounds?

The protective pattern that has emerged from these wounds is, simply put, staying busy to stay busy. It’s an unhealthy distraction technique, used to avoid confronting the underlying wounds.

Because of this pattern, you likely often find yourself overwhelmed and overextended, but unable to slow down even when you try. You have a tendency to frantically overcommit to so many little things (hobbies, minor projects, distractions, or shallow pursuits).

When it comes to relationships, your busyness serves a purpose, as it justifies the Page’s insecurity. It becomes a built-in excuse to avoid committing to anything deeper, whether that be a relationship or confronting your wounds head on. If you fill every moment with minor tasks, you don’t have the time or mental space for the deep, challenging work that is required of the healing process.

You may also be quite rigid, as you cling to the control that the chaos of being busy brings. This makes you appear inflexible in relationships, as you are unable to roll with the punches or integrate a partner’s needs.

moving TOWARDS HEALING

King of Swords

How do I begin to integrate these wounds?

This card represents intellect, clarity, objective truth, and decisiveness. He has mastered his mind, which is exactly where your wounds of fear, insecurity, and paralysis reside.

To integrate the wounds, this card instructs you to stop operating from a place of feeling (insecurity and fear) and start operating from a place of truth and logic.

Practical steps:

1. Practice radical honesty:

Use the sword to cut through the distortions and fabrications you’ve created (7 of Swords). Face the uncomfortable truth.

  • Identify the avoidance: List the ways the 7 of Swords avoidance manifests in your life and relationships

  • Name the fear: objectively identify why you feel perpetually unprepared (Page of Pentacles)

  • Stop justifying the busyness: acknowledge that the 2 of Pentacles reversed is a conscious form of self-sabotage, not a genuine lack of time

2. Establish structure and boundaries:

Move away from the 2 of Pentacles reversed chaos and create a clear, logical plan to overcome the 2 of Wands reversed paralysis. This plan should not be based on wishful thinking, but on what you can actually commit to.

  • Decide: is “one foot out the door” an acceptable approach to relationships? If not, what does 100% commitment look like?

  • Set clear relationship boundaries: define what you currently can and cannot offer in a relationship

  • Create a healing schedule: dedicate specific, non-negotiable time blocks for the deep healing work you’ve been avoiding. Put it on the calendar and hold yourself to doing this work, repeatedly.

3. Detach from fear & observe

As you move into healing, it is likely “what ifs” will arise, like “what if I’m not enough?”

When one of these fears come up, recognize it for what it is—a passing thought, not a fact. Observe it logically instead of reacting emotionally. Ask if this thought is factually true, or a residual scar from my wounds? 

Questions to sit with:

As you integrate this reading into your life, these questions may guide you:

  • What would it look like if I showed up fully and failed?

  • What would it look like if I showed up fully and succeeded?

  • If I couldn't use busyness as an excuse, what would I have to confront?

  • What does being “one foot out the door” cost me?

  • What's one small step I can take toward showing up fully?

Disclaimer

Note this report is for entertainment and self-reflection purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional legal, medical, psychological, or financial advice. The reports offer perspectives and potentials, but you retain 100% responsibility and free will for any choices and actions you take.